Some of you guys may already know that in September of 2019
I got married to my lovely husband. To say that we broke the mould and have a very
simple and paired back wedding would be putting it mildly, but we loved the day
and made the most of every single moment of our day. We got ready with one
another in the morning time, we travelled to the venue together, there was no
walking down the aisle, only 10 people attended the ceremony, there was no first
dance, no fixed three course meal, no speeches and the music was 100% selected
by the two of us and al of these things made our day absolutely perfect for us.
We understand completely that our wedding day would not be
for everybody, but we had our reasons for having a simple wedding and honestly looking
back, I would not change a single thing about our entire day. So I thought that
I would write a blog post today all about some of the reasons why we had a
simple wedding and why we encourage other people to really think about the wedding
traditions that you want to include in a part of your wedding day because you
really can do anything that you want, regardless of what couples have done
before you!
Money
When I say this, please do not think that it is a
personal attack on anybody and other peoples relationships, because we know
that so many people long for a large wedding, but we just did not need it. We
did not need to spend the best part of 20K in order to want to marry each
other. It is a massive bonus that our wedding cost just a few thousand pounds,
but honestly money barely even came into our thinking. If you truly love each
other, it is about the two of you coming together, not the pissing content that
seems to be happening at the moment with the absolutely massive and extravagant
weddings. Spending hoards of cash does not make you any happier.
Family Politics
Another reason why we wanted a
small wedding was to cut out some of the family politics. Like I said, we had
only 10 people at our wedding and that was simply our immediate family and our
grandparents. No friends were invited and those which attended the ceremony were
not allowed plus ones. It sounds really harsh, but it is just more simple than
trying to fit our very large families into the small numbers which are allowed at
the ceremonies and we know that we will always look back on our wedding
pictures and know and love everybody in the shots!
We Have Been to Many Weddings and Know What We Like
My husband and I are of the age where many of our
friends have gotten married and from that we learnt some of the things that we
liked from weddings and many of the things that we did not like. It made us
realise that for us, many of the normal wedding traditions such as the speeches
and first dances were more cringey then they were special. I know that we
probably sound like mardy arses, but it is just our honest opinion. It helped
us to mould our day into something that was perfect for us.
We Are Particular People
As the point above probably
already makes us look, my husband and I are quite particular and we are cut from
the same cloth. We would hate to wear stuffy outfits and feel unconfrtable all
day long. We would not like it if we had to dance just the two of us in front
of all of our desks and we would have hated for a DJ to play a cheesy wedding
playlist. Instead of just going along with the norm for a wedding, we made sure
that if we are paying money for other people to attend a massive party on our
behalf, it had to be the perfect occasion for us and not just what other people
expected.
We Know What the People in Our Life Want
Obviously, we both realised that a wedding is about so
much more than just the two of us and we wanted the occasion to be special for
our guests, but we also know our family and group of friends incredibly well.
If we had a three course meal of pretentious food, our guests would have been
bored, if we had speeches they would heckle us and if we had Cotton Eyed Joe on
in the evening they would have been bored. Honestly, so many of our guests have
said how much they loved our day and how much fun it was in comparison to so
many other weddings that they had been to!
Like I said above, we could have had a big wedding that costs near on £30,000, but it would not have made us any happier. Honestly, the pictures of my husband and I from our wedding day are absolutely hilarious and that is because we laughed the entire day long and we just had a blast. We had been to so many weddings over the past couple of years where even the most fun people seemed stressed and uncomfortable in their wedding finery. I know that not everybody will want something as simple as us, but I really do encourage people to think about their day, what they want out of it and what their guests will want. We have had nothing but praise form people about how much fun they had at our wedding and they themselves wished that they did more to adapt the day for themselves.
Make sure to leave me a comment down below and let me know if you are planning your wedding or what kind of wedding you will have or that you have already had!
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